Friend or Foe??

What defines attraction? Webster defines it as “a force acting mutually between particles of matter, tending to draw them together, and resisting their separation”.  Newton had his ideas with the whole gravity thing...but what makes a person attractive to another person? How can you be attracted to someone you know is not good for you?

I have a friend. We were a bit of an item years ago until he decided he wanted to date someone else. To his credit he told me, unlike the former THG. But this friend is still attractive to me. He's not in super great shape and really does have a “Grizzly Adams” beard rolling, but when I am within a few feet of him I get tingles...

This is after almost two years of not being together. Shoot we didn’t talk for the first six months after our breakup and not at all while I was with tfTHG. That is almost a solid year of no communication except for major golf events.

So there we were this past weekend hanging out having a couple sodas at our favorite pub, and it is as if we never spent a moment apart. We can be in each other’s personal space and it doesn’t feel awkward or forced. We dance to the same silly songs and play Golden Tee together. He’s a pretty great caddy/coach.

And the tingles...did i mention the tingles?

Now don’t get me wrong. I harbor no false fantasies of our reuniting. There are many MANY reasons we didn’t work out in the first place. Did I mention MANY? I just find it odd that after all the hurt and time apart there is still something that draws us together.

It’s the tingles...It’s that feeling of butterflies when you know you’re about to see a special person...It’s the hair rising on your arms when that person is standing behind you...The smile stretching across your face when that person says you are "the sh*+" or "gorgeous".

Truthfully, I miss the tingles. I am glad this friend still gives them to me. I can’t wait for a time when an appropriate man gives me the same feeling. Appropriate being a man who doesn’t want to or isn’t currently dating someone who isn’t me.

Until that time my focus is on taking care of my Lobo kiddos and making myself as attractive as possible.

Inspiration Song..."Friend or Foe" by Adam Ant