Up With Montana

I am a Montana Grizzly. I love the University of Montana and of course it's football team. When I cannot get to Missoula for a game, which is NEVER, I catch it over internet radio. Mick Holien is the voice I trust the most for games and UM information. It is his voice I think of at this moment...

When the Grizzlies were on the brink of something good Mick would say "Good things happen to good people." I really truly with all of my heart and soul believe that to be true...today though, I have to say "Terrible things happen to good people."

There has been some chronicling of my ex relationship with tfTHG. As of today he is the lying, sneaking, snake, of a human being. Let's just call him what he is...a Terrible Person.

I received an email this morning via Facebook from a poor suspecting woman. We will call her Victim.

She stated very clearly "Hi Dawn, I am Terrible Person's wife. I am sure this message will likely catch you off guard, I apologize. Can you please tell me about the relationship you had with Terrible Person? Also, does he owe you any money?
 Thanks so much,
 Victim”

OH MY EFFING GOD!!!

That is right boys and girls. The snake is married. After standing in my kitchen in May telling me he would not EVER get married again.

So here's the shakedown.

 All out in the open, no secrets:

I dated Terrible Person beginning in May. We spent so much time together from May through November I never once thought there was a real possibility of him to being in a relationship with someone else.  When I started my job in August we spent even more time together as I didn’t want to drive all the way to my house every night. When I moved to my apartment in October he offered to keep things I couldn’t fit in my apartment in his garage.

We were in a relationship.

I was in love.

He was keeping a huge secret.

The relationship ended because a woman…Victim…posted “Enjoying date time!” and tagged Terrible Person.  I saw it and immediately went into information gather mode.

His response, after three days, was to send me an email…an EMAIL…stating “Sorry for being so distant, but there are some things I need you to be aware of. I am not interested in dating you.” He also went on to say “You have been a great friend and have my word you will get the money I owe in full very shortly. Please take care.”

It was over. I was hurt beyond measure. My life no longer became about him and his son. It became about my students and my gym time. I thought I won the gym in the separation…guess he moved to The Woodlands…

So there it is. He not only didn’t have the guts to face me to break off our relationship, but he did not have the intestinal fortitude to tell me the truth!

I am NOT the victim here. I thought I was for a while, but I am not. I will admit I freaked out a little and thank God for the wonderful people on this campus who listened and did not judge and offered me a hug.

The shame is there is a woman out there who really thought she was in a loving and trusting relationship. She thought she walked down the aisle to a man who was going to take care of her for the rest of her life. Now she is finding out he was with someone else.

I don’t know all the details, as she has not returned my response to the initial message.

I was honest. I told her everything about our relationship.

I have no reason not to tell the truth. I am NOT helping him save anything.

I have confided in people the situation and each person has a different way of handling it. None of those ways is how I have handled it. The way I am handling it is MY way.

 I do not need to talk to him.

He needs to talk to his wife. I am NOT his wife.

I was not the other woman. I was a woman in his life that he cared so little for he was willing to end a relationship, dating or friendship, via email.

Thank you dear friends for allowing me this time during your day to get something off my chest.

Terrible things DO happen to good people.

In reality this situation does not really affect me. I am done with that relationship and moving on in my life. In fact, I told a student 10 minutes before I received the message “Confidence is up. Dating is down.” I have worked my body into something to be proud of. The person I am inside matches. This one person who has been so awful to so many cannot and will not put an end to any of that.

As the words of the Montana fight song ring in my head…Up with Montana boys, down with the foe.  Good things are waiting for me and I would not want to be Terrible Person when he gets home tonight…

Inspiration Song...Up With Montana...U of M Fight Song.